“We need to have more compassion and understanding in our marriages - for ourselves and for our partner.
There are a lot of things that enter our relationships from our pasts. We need to realize that it is going to take some time to perfect this dance. Sometimes they’re going to step on your toes, and sometimes you will step on theirs. When we do that, let’s try to give each other some feedback and support.
It can quickly turn to blame and anger - ‘you stepped on me and that really hurt!’ Most often there is not malicious intent, yet people still get injured. We get hurt and our expectations get betrayed. There is a lot of emotion and discomfort and fear. It’s here that we need to start from a place of, ‘my partner is probably doing their best even though they aren’t a great dance partner yet. Maybe I’m not a great dance partner yet either! I thought I had all the moves and I don’t. How can we learn how to dance together?’”
About Our Guest
Dr. Cameron Staley
Dr. Cameron Staley is a clinical psychologist who is passionate about providing counseling, teaching courses for the psychology department, and supervising counselors and psychologists in training at Idaho State University. He has presented his research on pornography at the International Academy of Sex Research (IASR) and the Society for the Scientific Study of Sexuality (SSSS) along with peer-reviewed publications in the journals of Socioaffective Neuroscience and Psychology, Sexual Addiction & Compulsivity, and Archives of Sexual Behavior. Cameron completed his psychology internship at Brigham Young University’s Counseling and Psychological Services where he first learned Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) as an effective treatment for unwanted pornography viewing.
In his TEDx talk, Changing the Narrative Around the Addiction Story, Cameron shares details from his research and counseling experience regarding helpful ways to talk about sexuality and how to effectively reduce unwanted pornography viewing through mindfulness. In order to help even more individuals who are struggling with pornography, he developed an online self-directed program called LifeAfterPornography based on the same ACT principles he uses in his counseling work and the same approach proven effective in research to reduce unwanted pornography viewing in adults.
Cameron is also an author with a passion for capturing the complexities of human nature, tackling sensitive topics, and writing about the lives of the Book of Mormon people.
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